Life is made up of decisions. Especially at this critical point in life where I am approaching my 30s, every little thing requires a concrete and well thought step to be taken.
But the fear of the results is so big that we often seek external confirmation.
Or so we think.
We sometimes are so used to asking for advice, that we unknowingly start depending on them for our decisions. But we should not forget that advice is an advice after all. Nobody can take a decision for you, they can only tell you their perspective or experience. We cannot base our decisions completely on advice of the people who do not have to face the results.
Be logical, own up your decisions. Think them through. Also, after weighing in everything, be ready to face those decisions. They may go wrong, but let’s be prepared to face the results. Let’s be prepared to face the consequences without complaining. It’s easy to blame others’ advice for a decision you took, or start regretting for that matter. But the bottomline is, just be prepared with a Plan B/C/D . . . Always!
You know how people pull you down sometimes. I have heard these, a lot!
“Such a dumb person you are! This is a basic concept” , “How can you not work this out?” , “You really need to work at being smart”.
Smallest of things pull me back ~ “he didn’t reply back to my text – maybe he is not interested” , “Nobody flirts with me ~ obviously I don’t look that great”.
Now, I may not be the smartest person around, but I work hard. I may not know basic concepts, but hey! Am trying to learn. I maybe overweight and not that beautiful, but am working at it!
Being self critical has its own consequence. You not only tend to underestimate yourself, but you also unknowingly start seek external validation. External validations are important, they provide you a different perspective about yourself, but they are good enough only if its coming from a trustworthy source. People sometime tend to make you feel as if you are not worthy enough, because you let them make you feel that way. Don’t let them do that at any point of time. If they do not get you maybe you don’t need them around.
At the same time, I have learnt to be careful before passing any such comments on others. In between fun conversations, we forget how our single comment can ruin others’ day. Everyone is fighting their own battle, and it takes just a little effort to be compassionate.
Days crawl through, and years are over in a flash!
2015 is ending and this post is a recap of everything I went through this year, new things I learnt and some random blabbering 😀
Top highlights / Things I learnt.
New Job, New Workplace – This was a long overdue change that was required in my career and though the offer was extended in late 2014, I finally joined in Jan 2015.
Getting better at Driving – This was a major milestone for me. I finally learnt to drive effortlessly in any kind of traffic. To all women out there – LEARN to drive. This feeling of independence is second to none. 🙂
Crochet – Crochet is a needle & thread work, which I learnt by myself – after being given a head start by my Mom, off course. I started enjoying it – its intricate, and helps me focus and unwind. I want to continue learning new patterns, and knit something bigger this coming year.
Chose Yoga over gym – For the simple fact that I was bored of Gym. I have a detailed post on this one here.
3 month rule – I came up with this new rule this year. Any new thing brings with itself uncertainty. Give yourself a 3 month window to get into the habit and adjust. 95% times you will end up thinking, I was unnecessarily worrying back then. Tried and tested 🙂
Its totally possible that you be utterly mad at someone, but still love them to the moon – I did not believe this until I went through the feeling myself.
You are your best friend – N.O.B.O.D.Y – nobody in this world can help you unless you help yourself. Listen to your heart and mind. 99% of the time they are ready with a solution. You just need tune to their frequency. You know the ‘gut feeling’ of something that feels right, just feels right. Its TRUE! This feeling does exists.
If you don’t like it, SAY it – and vice-versa. I don’t think I have done this before. But this year, multiple instances, I have spoken my heart out. And I learnt, until you say it, nobody is going to understand it.
2015 would be remembered as a low key year in my life. While I have been through some really bad turn of events, I now feel it could have been worse. What matters at the end is that the people you trusted, are still besides you, and will always be 🙂
I will call 2015 as the year that laid some solid foundations (both sweet & bitter) for my coming life,career and family!
Thank you 2015 – you were kind to me _/\_
And last but not the least 🙂 🙂
This post idea had been lingering around in my mind for quite sometime now, and it finally took shape. Let’s talk calorie counting today.
Fitness is the new IN thing these days. Every second person I know is training for long distance running, or at least talking about it. People have become more focused towards eating right, which is a good given our sedentary lifestyles.
But how much is too much? I have come across people who are like, “This chapati is 80 calories, I can eat only 2, if I want to have that samosa later” Or “I drink tea without any sugar, that way I can eat that chocolate in the evening.”
Do you see the problem here? While calorie counting is a good way to keep a rough tab on your food intake especially when you are trying to lose weight, making your food completely about calories is a really bad idea, and here’s why!
- All the calories are not same : A bowl of dal rice and sabzi is equivalent to 2 slices of pizza – but both are consumed differently by the body. Dal rice is a far more balanced meal in terms of nutrients.
Similarly, if you think that eating a roti less in lunch will help you in maintaining the calorie bar, so that you can have that fried mixture in the evening, think again. Its better to eat that extra roti , it will help you feel more full till the evening.
- It stresses you out : There are 2 kinds of people – one who eat to live and others who live to eat. If you are anywhere near me, you fall in the latter category. Counting calories simply takes the ‘JOY’ out of eating. Food nurtures our body – it gives it energy to function properly and tirelessly. Calorie counting makes food sound like enemy – and you are constantly stressed about the fact that you ate 100 calories more today. C’mon , food is our friend.
- You lose the connect with your body : There are days when you are more hungry, because maybe you are stressed out, or overcoming a sickness – body is asking for more fuel, so that it can recover faster. If you chain yourself to counting calories and eating, you are snatching away body’s chance to recover fast. When your body gets used to such Ignorance , it gives up on you. And you definitely don’t want that.
HOWEVER . . . . .
not counting calories does not mean that you can eat whatever you want. Its more about mindful eating, and eating whats right. Everybody knows the basics that we must eat more fiber, workout, eat less of fast foods – so I won’t be going into more gyaan in that domain.
But, be friends with food. Think in terms of nutrients than calories. Eat that khichdi at night instead of only a bowl of plain raw salad, just because we must not eat rice at night. A complete and nutrient rich meal will give you a good night’s sleep, and help you workout much better the next morning.
If you don’t know how much food is enough for you or if you want to check if you are over eating , go ahead , try the calorie counting for 2-3 days. It will give you a rough idea of your intake and help you plan your meals. But, for rest of the days, listen to your body. And give it the love it deserves 🙂
*Disclaimer : All views expressed are my own. Use your own discretion in following any idea mentioned.
“Yup! You heard that right! Am breaking up with you Gym, it just does not feel the same anymore. I think I need some time away from you to set my priorities straight, and to figure out what actually I feel about you.”
Pretty classy, right? 😛
Jokes apart, Yes! I decided to discontinue gym about a couple of months back, and am not regretting the decision a bit till now. Fasten you seat belts, looks like this is going to be a long post.
Why I took this decision?
My interest into fitness grew ~ 3.5 years back, when I started attending Zumba classes at my workplace. 2 years later, since there was a shift in office campus, I could not attend the classes regularly, so decided to hit the office gym instead. Its around that time, I tried my hands into running. So far so good.
About an year back, I knew that my career needed a change, and so I switched jobs. This new workplace is a startup and does not have a gym of its own. So I joined a local gym near my home, in Jan’15.
That’s when the problem started. Firstly, my new work schedule demanded that I could go to the gym only in mornings . I was conditioned to workout in evenings mostly, so this was a big change for a ‘non-morning’ person like me. I still tried to fit in into the schedule as much as I could. But something was not working. I had no friends, no motivation in the gym, which I had previously. My ex-colleagues were very enthusiastic about working out, and that made push me one step ahead, and made me workout pretty regularly.
Before long, I started skipping my morning workouts, and I was realizing it. I was unable to be consistent.
I still tried, but the trainers weren’t motivating enough. I was also starting to develop a lower back pain, which was worsening day by day. More reasons to skip the gym.
The last straw was a day about 2 months back, when I was in so much pain, that I could not get up from bed! I was scared as hell that day, and immediately thought I had slip disc. (Result of googling your medical conditions too much! 😛 )
Anyways it was not anything major, and looked like a muscle pull.
I rested for 2 days, and came to a decision that now is time to take a step back. I am not enjoying gym at all, and made no sense for me to continue. I have always had an inclination towards yoga, and thought this was the right time.
What I decided instead?
With a weakened lower back, and a job that demands sitting most part of the day, I had to devise a plan to strengthen my back muscles.
I started off by walking 30 mins every day, and did this for about a week. I also did very basic leg stretches in this period. Once the pain lessened, I decided to increase the intensity and duration of my exercise.
This is what I do most of my days :
6:50 am – 7:55 am : Brisk walking. I am gradually working on increasing pace. I am able to walk about 6.08 kms in this time duration now, and working towards ~7kms in 1hr 5mins. I have started squeezing in 30 sec fast jog in between for HIIT affect.
8am – 8:30 : Yoga sequences, that typically aim at strengthening lower body. Focus on core strength. Suryanamaskars are a must. I aim at doing at least 10 each day. I browse and try out different yoga videos from youtube. My current favourite is :
Priya, creator of this video, is a friend of mine, who is one of the fittest people I know! Make sure you give this 15min workout a spin!
How has this helped?
- Consistency : I am much more consistent with my workouts now. I do not feel bored or lazy to get up in the mornings now, as I know how much fresh I will feel after I step out for a walk.
- Time Flexibility : Even if am not feeling up to it someday, I reschedule it to evenings. I feel less stressed because I know am not being controlled by gym timings.
- Stronger & Calmer : I am definitely feeling more stronger, lighter and more flexible because my workouts are becoming consistent. Also added to it is the inner calmness I feel, which could be attributed to the focused breathing in yoga sequences, and the crisp fresh morning air.
- Clearer skin : I have a super oily, acne prone skin, that looks tired pretty much within couple of hours. However, I have seen a lot of difference in my skin texture in last 2 months.
- Eating right : Starting the day on a voluntary healthier note sets the tone right for the day, and I end up eating right most of time. I am struggling with my sugar intake still, but it has reduced a lot. Eating right keeps my metabolism up and running. This is really helpful, since am trying to lose weight, which does not happen easily for my body type.
Do you have any such experiences, where you decided to leave what everyone is following, and you followed your heart? Do let me know !
Keep Smiling, Cheers!